It’s too cold to go out. It’s too cold to socialize with new friends. It’s too cold to do anything but lounge in bed, binge-watching Netflix – having someone to cuddle with just makes “Breaking Bad” that much better. ‘Tis the season for “cuffing.” Guys and girls flying solo come down from summertime flinging and sober up to the idea of securing a “cuddle buddy.”
So, what exactly is cuffing season?
Urban Dictionary has an accurate definition of the term:
During the Fall and Winter months, people who would normally rather be single or promiscuous find themselves along with the rest of the world desiring to be “Cuffed” or tied down by a serious relationship. The cold weather and prolonged indoor activity causes singles to become lonely and desperate to be cuffed.
Fabulous raps about it in his song, “Cuffin’ Season”: “Been naughty all year trying to end it nicely / summer girls turning into winter wifeys.”
Is there science behind cuffing season?
High school science was a drag for most, but in reality, you might have been learning about love from the beginning. Think back to learning about Charles Darwin’s classic “survival of the fittest” theory. According to Darwin, individuals with maladaptive behaviors – like walking around alone in the middle of winter – were less likely to survive the cold and have kids, causing their genes to not be passed on to the next generation. Meanwhile, people who had mates in the winter had better survival rates. As a result, they had more babies than single people did. We humans, overtime, evolved to couple up in the winter because it was a behavior that ensured our continued survival and successful reproduction in future generations.
Mother Nature or Social Pressure?
Feeling the need for a partner might be a factor due to loneliness, coupled with a fear of being alone during the holidays. We’re bombarded over the holidays with plus one invites, gift guides for significant others, or my personal favorite, grandma asking year-after-year about your love life at the Christmas Eve dinner.
Peer pressure is harsh, being alone in the corner while you watch everyone enjoy his or her New Year’s kiss is torture. Maybe that is why January 2 is Match.com’s busiest day of the year. There is plenty of data that roughly correlate with cuffing season:
Most babies are born in July and August, which means couples are having sexy time during the fall and winter months. In 2013, December was the most popular month for getting engaged. According to the online dating website, Zoosk, New York City residents send 56 percent more messages and view 38 percent more profiles when it’s snowing outside.
If cuffing season is just a “season?” What happens when it’s over?
Beware to not confuse cuffing season as an opportunity to score a serious relationship. Someone is bound to get attached and – according to evolution – it’s going to be the female. Survive cuffing season by staying on the same page. If the season is just going to be a “friendly hook-up” make sure to communicate that. Communication is key. However, people do say, “You find love when you’re least expecting it.” Happy cuffing and may the odds be ever in your favor.